So yeah, today was another day in the life of me.
Work continues to be almost more than I can handle but I did get to arrive a bit later this morning. Man, what a difference an hour can make to a person’s mood, particularly MINE! I just know that this loony-season-schedule combined with the stress of school might make me completely SNAP!
I had the strange occurance of someone commenting on this blog. How did they find it??? I felt immediately defensive, of course, this person was asking why I allowed things to get to me. AND the name attached to the address was a man’s*** name. No reason….just saying.
(In full disclosure, I, of course, had a techno-breakdown and accidentally deleted the comment–I was proud to have it and terrified of it but wanted it to be on the site but USER error, not GOD, did this to us)
It made me think that there are people, and I would guess the majority of them are men, that can not understand why speaking your/one’s mind is difficult. Now is the age of the patriarchy and it has been for a LONG effin time. Traditionally Feminine ways of being are looked down upon in our Western world. If you cry, feel emotion or admit to being scared, you might be called a “pussy”. Why? How? and When did this become a put down? As far as I can see, we ALL are here on this wonderful planet because of one and the amazing thing is that we came OUT of one! That is fucking amazing to me! I mean, all bodies are amazing to me, but the female one, in particular, trips me out, and I have been one for *hurumbpahgrumple* years.
That being said, I have known just a handful of men that were truly in touch with their emotional, spiritual, intuitional, that is “Feminine” side. And I have LOVED every ONE of them in some way!
Ok, I am off on a tangent.
How does this relate to the project at large?
I am SO glad you asked!
I think it is essential to the project in that I believe that the current Western culture does not value the traits we associate with the “Feminine” and this includes those traits in men. The word “NO” is but one word in the vocabulary of wo(man) but it is essential to the expression of self.
Why is it then, that when a woman says no, she is often met with coercion or doubt about her meaning??? I have seen ads/brochures/articles in an attempt to teach young men about date-rape that say “No means No”. I mean, dear Goddess, what the eff is up with that? Of COURSE NO means NO or am I on another planet? Would that same young man question one of his buddies when they said ‘no’? I guess in some situations but ComeON!
I know that I have been in situations (??) where my “NO” was questioned and I am aware of many of my friends having had similar experiences. I don’t think this is an anomaly; I think this is one of many symptoms of a larger problem.
I would also assert that this same problem can be extended through to our current political situation as well as the environmental crisis that is upon us…
But THAT, my Dear Friends, is another post, all together.
***Should that person find this blog again, PLEASE comment again, so I might learn how to use the moderation function of this darn internets thing! Thank you!
